There is no benefit to punishing oneself. It is often easier to chastise yourself than it is to change faulty ways.
If you are always being moved by others and outside forces how will you reach your own goals?
If you are not your fault, whose fault would you like to be?
Accepting things as they are is the first step to growth. Admitting things need to change is the second step.
If you fish everyday you will not catch a fish everyday.
Confusing thoughts with reality is the same as living in a deluded world of whimsy and fantasy.
You cannot give yourself to pointless busy work
You do more than live your life. You also create it.
Erroneous expectations are the number one cause of evolutionary mishaps.
Only when being who you are hurts will growth be possible.